Breakthrough Life Coach for Women's Issues

Most of us do want to be happy. The problem is that we are often waiting for someone or some event to happen to make us feel better. I find that true for many of my coaching clients. They seem to be stuck and often feel powerless over situations. Very often they have bought into the lie that a person, a relationship or some external situation is responsible for their happiness or lack of it. If they are unhappy it is because someone else or an event or circumstance is to blame for their lot or predicament. A person that thinks this way severely limits their options in life.

As long as someone else is responsible for your unhappiness then you don’t have to take personal responsibility for your life. It is really playing the “blame game” and too often becomes an excuse to hide behind. In reality, what a person has really done is hand over their own emotional well-being to someone else.

The truth is all of us have the ability to decide or to choose how we will respond to the events of our lives. The real road to maturity, to emotional and mental freedom comes taking responsibility about our choices. When we use the greatest things we possess, the ability to decide or choose, we experience real freedom.
I believe the greatest gift you can give yourself is a real honest look at your life. Here are some questions to consider to help you move your life in a more positive direction:

1. What are you tolerating?
2. What assumptions are you making?
3. What does it mean to be authentic?
4. Where are you giving away your power?
5. Where are you compromising?
6. Where might you be playing the blame game?
7. What options do you have?
8. What can you celebrate or be grateful for?
9. What does it mean to be in the driver’s seat of your life?

Making choices even about our attitudes is really the best way to get a sense of ownership back about our life. Any way you look at the matter, our lack of happiness is not someone else’s fault! It is a decision that we make every day. When you begin to realize that you are not powerless in this life, you take ownership of your life, make better decisions and feel more empowered to move towards your future.